Welcome to Module 1: Finding Your New Friends.
The purpose of this course is to help you make amazing new friends – people that you feel lucky to have in your life.
Just because you don’t have these awesome friends right now doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to have them. Society has changed rapidly over the last several years and decades, and so has the way we meet people.
Unfortunately, many people haven’t adapted to these changes. But don’t worry. We’re going to show you how to find the right people in the right places so you can create the life you desire.
That’s why this course starts by teaching you how to find people who can potentially become your friends. It’s an important first step in the process of making new friends.
It may seem ridiculous that you need to learn how to find people because people are everywhere. You see them in malls, Starbucks, grocery stores, parks, the Apple Store, and plenty of other public places.
If you want to strike up conversations with people in those places, great. I even cover talking to strangers in public places later in this course.
But certain places are much better for making new friends.
When you meet people in the right places:
- You’ll find more like-minded people who you want to meet.
- You’ll meet people who are also interested in getting to know you.
- You’ll enjoy being there, regardless of who you meet.
By finding places that are better suited for meeting new people, your odds of making new friends increase significantly.
So the goal of this module is to help you set up a system to do two things:
- Find great places to meet new people.
- Consistently attend these places.
If you can do that, you’ll regularly meet potential new friends and give yourself plenty of chances to build a thriving social circle.
But before we get to that, it’s good to understand why we struggle to meet new people so you can avoid the common pitfalls.
Why Do We Struggle to Meet New People?
There are many different reasons people struggle to find potential friends:
They go to the wrong places, where people aren’t that interested in meeting other people.
They don’t leverage their existing network of friends and acquaintances. This is the fastest and easiest way to make new friends.
They don’t start conversations with strangers. Every friend starts as a stranger. If you don’t talk to people you don’t know, you can’t make new friends.
They don’t put in the effort or make the time. Maybe they don’t know what to do. Maybe they have some ideas but struggle to take action and make decisions. Maybe they’re lazy. Maybe they’re scared. Regardless, you have to put in the effort if you want to make new friends.
If you’re reading this and blaming yourself for having trouble meeting new people, I get it.
You might not have friends or acquaintances to help you. Starting conversations with strangers can be hard. And you might not know where to go or what to do.
But that’s all going to change with this course.
And don’t worry, you’re not alone. This is such a common problem that it’s practically an epidemic. And unfortunately, people aren’t taught these skills growing up.
Most parents and educational systems don’t teach their kids socials skills, networking, or how to meet new people. Since many people don’t learn it naturally, they go to the internet to learn more.
While the internet is full of information, everything I find severely misses the mark of helping you make new friends. I’ve noticed the following problems:
- The information is too vague and high-level. They may touch on the right info, but they don’t go into enough detail to really help you.
- The information isn’t actionable. You may know what you need to do, but you don’t know how to do it.
- They mistake the forest for the trees. They get caught up teaching social skills and forget to teach you where to find these people. Social skills will help, but choosing the right places will give you a much better and more immediate bang for your buck. It’s important to focus on the right things at the right time.
I don’t want you to waste your time. I want you to make new, good friends in the shortest amount of time possible.
That’s why we’re going to do things differently than everyone else.
Where You Want to Meet People
It’s much easier to make new friends when you focus on meeting people in the right places. And there are four ways to meet people that are much better than any other way:
- At work or school
- Through connections (friends of friends, acquaintances, people in your network, etc.)
- At Consistent Social Groups (groups where the same people meet on a regular basis)
- Meetups (one-time events like a party or a conference. These aren’t as good as Consistent Social Groups, but are better than public places)
You’re going to learn how to meet people in all of those situations.
You’ll also learn how to meet strangers in public places. They aren’t nearly as good for meeting people, but they’re a regular part of life. You can practice your social skills while running errands and it makes life more fun. Plus, it’s still possible to make new friends this way. Just don’t set your expectations very high.
But before you start looking for places to meet people, you need to understand what you want to get out of this and what you really enjoy doing. This information will help you figure out which places are best for you.
That’s what we’ll go through in the next few lessons. See you there.